March for Babies 2011

It's that time of year again!  Time to start thinking about walking for healthy babies.  On the first day available, Team Gunner is up and running again!  Below is my letter that will be included in the Family Teams information packet!

January 2011


Dear Family Team Captain-

It is my absolute honor and pleasure to welcome you in joining our fight to make sure every baby gets their healthy start in life! The March for Babies campaign is dedicated to funding the mission of the March of Dimes. This event is so moving and powerful because its heart lies in the family teams comprised of those who have been directly touched by the mission of March of Dimes. I am excited to meet you and hear your story! I encourage you to check out our website at http://www.marchforbabies.org/ and share the information with your team.

My ties to the March of Dimes run deep. It all began long ago when I made my first meager donation to the March for Babies campaign, formerly known as WalkAmerica, while I was a high school student working at one of our corporate sponsors. At that time, there was no way that I would have ever thought that my life would be touched by prematurity. I didn’t even know what the mission of the March of Dimes was.

Now, fully aware of the mission, I know that both of my boys are March of Dimes babies. Obviously, my second, born at 33 weeks benefited from the mission of the March of Dimes. But my first son, who was born healthy at full term also benefited from the research funded by the March of Dimes that guided my prenatal care and newborn screening. We walk for all of the March of Dimes babies in our lives and to help all babies get a healthy start. We fight because babies shouldn’t have to!

It is my job to represent and support you in your effort as a family team. I can help you set a fundraising goal, brainstorm fundraising ideas, and keep aware of all pertinent event information. Enclosed in your packet you will find a lot of tools that will make your job easier, including t-shirt order forms, chocolate order forms and other fundraising ideas including some great March of Dimes merchandise at www.wristbands4awareness.com/mod_individual.

We also have a lot of great online marketing tools including your personal webpage that allows for online donations, an email generator, and a facebook application to help you approach your family and friends for their financial support and sponsorship. Go to http://www.marchforbabies.org/ today and see how easy it has become to help give every baby a healthy start.

How many babies can you help? Consider your total from last year and set a new goal; maybe 10% more than last year. If this is your first year, set some goal. I know I was shocked when I set mine and raised over six times it! It’s amazing how people want to help you be successful.

I hope you will join us at our two March for Babies sites in 2011-- on April 30th at Battle Creek Health Systems and on May 7th at the Celery Flats Historical Site in Portage. I will also be keeping a blog featuring information and pictures of the event at http://www.kalamazoomarchforbabies.blogspot.com/.
Sincerely,



Christi Young

March of Dimes 2011 Ambassador Family Mom

Special Delivery

I blogged earlier about the reborn doll that I had commissioned to be be created.  Well, reborn Gunner is home. He is going to be a mission piece as we proudly represent the March of Dimes as the 2011 Ambassador Family. I can't believe my 4 lb preemie is now over 22lbs. No one else would either, which is why Terra created this amazing baby to demonstrate what he was when he was born. The resembelence is uncanny. Thank you Terra (who is a Preemie Mom herself!)

To hold him, you actually think he feels heavy.  This is because you pick it up as a doll.  A doll traditionally weighs ounces, not pounds.  When you imagine it as a baby, newly born, it becomes light...as you imagine it being less than half the weight of most newborns. 

His length is the size of most little girls' baby dolls.  I know as a child that I had dolls this size.  But that length is also the length of Gunner when he was born. 

The doll is so small that he swims in a preemie sleeper.  Just like Gunner did when he was born. 

For all intents and purposes, it serves as a beautiful piece of art and a symbol of what my son, born too soon, was.  I was especially moved when I found out the artist and creator is the mother of beautiful twin girls, who were also born at 33 weeks like Gunner.  It touched my heart when she said "when I hold his head in my hand, it feels like I was holding one of my babies" I am not sure you would get this if you didn't have a baby whose head was about the size of a baseball.  I have since changed his clothing to one of Gunner's first outfits that Daddy bought him, but here is little Gunner.  Thank you, Terra.

This is the reality of prematurity

Although you will hear me be all sunshine and rainbows about my son (how I love him and I wouldn't change anything about him for the world, which I still wouldn't) here is the reality of prematurity.  I feel amazingly blessed to have a "normal" full term pregnancy before my preterm pregnancy.  However, having that wonderful nearly uneventful pregnancy also made me painfully aware of everything that I missed and was robbed of during my preterm pregnancy. 

The photo you see above was the last picture taken of my pregnant with Gunner.  I was 28 weeks along.  28 weeks, that is 12 weeks before my due date.  This was the morning of the day that my water broke.  Later that afternoon I was admitted to the hospital, not to be discharged until I had a baby, which at that point, they thought was imminent.  One of the things I missed was taking a weekly picture of my belly to see how it grew or having professional pictures taken, like I did with Greyson. Yes, I know, in comparison to my son breathing, this is very very petty.

 This picture again, we are all smiles.  It was Mother's Day 2009.  A day we should be celebrating, especially with an upcoming birth (that was supposed to be 2 months away) The reality of this is, I was stuck in a hospital bed over an hour from my home with infrequent visitors and a lot of solitude.  Solitude and worry that drove a person who is generally positive and optimistic to be worried, unsettled, and depressed.  Depressed to the point that at the 4 week mark, my mental health state required medication and monitoring.

I love my baby boy.  He was a giant considering the other babies he was near in the NICU.  A giant at 4 lbs.  My full term baby was described to me by many as "the smallest baby I have ever seen" well, now I had one upped that, with an even smaller baby.  I have very few pictures of Gunner with all of his wires and tubes, simply because I didn't want to remember it.  But the reality is, if I don't remember it, no one else will either.  If I don't remember and share this experience, there will be even more babies like Gunner.  Babies born too soon because the general perception of a preemie is a "small baby" who will be "fine" after awhile.  While that is generally true, it certianly doesn't reflect the reality of the day in and day out life of a preemie parent .

As I said, I was blessed with a relatively uncomplicated pregnancy before Gunner's birth.  I was blessed to have a baby that could room in with me, nurse for hours on end, to change a diaper without assistance, to have my only worry be if and when I may get some sleep again.  As you can see above, the parenting of a preemie is very different.  You are a visitor instead of a parent.  There is no 24-hour responsibility, because you just can't be there the whole time.  Especially if you are balancing the care of a 2 year old with that.

You have to wash for 30 seconds just to go in (with soap that if I smell now still takes me back)  You have to take a temperature every care session.  That is the only time you feed or diaper the baby, or you might overstimulate them to the point that they have spells where their heart rate drops or they forget to breathe.  You can't just nurse them, you have to see what they can handle at that moment.  You see progress and then the next time you are there you see regression.  You feel that the only thing you can do to really help them is to be up at all hours of the day and night pumping.  Wow.  That was verbal diarreah.  But the reality comes through; the parenting of a premature child is not an easy road.  This is parenting with a child who was able to breathe on his own.  I cannot imagine having a baby born so soon he couldn't breathe or touch as his skin is so sensitive it may rub off with a gentle touch.

All of that being said, I am reminded of my committment to the March of Dimes.  I am so firmly committed because this organization works tirelessly to help raise the funds necessary to research all of the things that can help end prematurity and help the babies born too soon.  So today, remember all of the babies born too soon, like Gunner.  But also remember and cherish your own children as well, because chances are they are all March of Dimes babies. 

What, you didn't have a preemie, so the MOD didn't have anything to do with your pregnancy or child?  If you refrained from drinking (1970's) or smoking (1970's) or took a prenatal vitamin daily (1990's) your child is a March of Dimes baby.  The years in ()'s are the years in which the March of Dimes' funded research told us not to drink, smoke, and to get daily folic acid in our diet.  So I have two March of Dimes babies.  A full-termer and a preemie.

Prematurity Awareness Day

Last year, I celebrated prematurity awareness for the first time, by posting Gunner's birth story.   A story that I took days to write, months to come to term with, and an event to share.  You may ask, why I say celebrated?  I think it is because although I wish I had a full term, uneventful pregnancy, I have to say I know why I didn't.

I didn't have a perfect pregnancy because:

The experiencing of prematurity inspired me to do my first March for Babies.  Our amazing team raised over $3000 to help fund research to fight prematurity and support families like mine.

The loss and helplessness I felt when visiting my son in the NICU has pushed me to support other families in that situation.  I have celebrated special nurses (nurse's day), special moms (gift bags to mommies with babies in the NICU) and a special hospital.  We did the Bronson's Children Hospital walk and facilitated a lovie drive, where we made over 50 tag blankets for children who need comfort in emergency situations.

I was able to help other preemie babies at our NICU and their moms by donating over 16 gallons of breast milk, including 300 oz of preterm milk.  This means less NEC, more weight gain, and anitbodies you just can't get in formula.

Due to the emotions and stress of prematurity, I have reached out to an amazing support network of moms who have walked a month or three in my NICU shoes.  They are amazing and though I have not met but one in real life, I consider them my friends and support network.

So I know, that even though I did everything right and this wasn't supposed to happen because of that, it did because it was meant to be.  I was meant to make a difference.

Gunner has been reborn!

Wow, was that fast.  Saturday I google prematurity, Monday Gunner is done.  This is just crazy.  I have to share.  He is just gorgeous. 

welcome reborn Gunner...

Reborn Gunner

Ok, I may be crazy, but hey. I was searching online for preemie quotes, stats and books to use for Prematurity Awareness Month. When I googled, I stumbled upon an ebay auction for a “reborn” preemie doll. It hauntingly reminded me of Gunner. It was about .4 oz heavier and about an inch shorter, but it held a very strong resembelence to newly born preemie Gunner.


I contacted the maker. She is the mother of twin 33-weekers. She gets me and what I went through and may even understand why I would want a doll to remind me of the hell that I went through. Call me oblivious to be able to almost reflect on my experience with prematurity as something that was supposed to happen, but I sort of feel that it was. I look at my life now and cannot see anything I wouldn’t want to be doing. I have a healthy child, I am being very fulfilled through my advocacy with the March of Dimes, and I feel that I am truly making a small difference in the life of another person.

So I have decided to have Gunner reborn. The baby will be of similar weight and length to Gunner’s birth size. The baby will accompany Gunner and I to all of our March of Dimes events as a measure of how far he has come. The picture pales in comparison to what the finished product will be, but here is why I have to get this doll.

Yes, I am a grown woman who wants a doll for Christmas.

I'm a statistic

Did you know that between 1997 and 2007, the rate of infants born preterm in Michigan increased nearly 11%. Two thoughts, wow, that is scary and oh boy, I am a statistic!  That is 1 in 8 babies or over 12% of all of the live births in Michigan.  As a state, we get a D in the status of premature birth.  Of course that resonates with me, because I am an educator.  I wouldn't want a nurse who got a D in a class or a teacher who got a D in class teaching my children.  But that is where we, as a state, fall.

In An Average Week in Michigan

• 301 babies are born preterm  (this would be Gunner)
• 52 babies are born very preterm
• 202 babies are born low birthweight (this would be Gunner and borderline Greyson)
• 40 babies are born very low birthweight

Despite the fact that the March of Dimes is doing research, moms are seeking prenatal care (most of them) and following the advice of their OB's (again most of them) prematurity is still effecting our state and possibly babies you know and love.  It is way to scary to be a preemie parent and though I wouldn't change it for the world, I also wouldn't wish the experience on my worst enemy.

I am a perfect example of doing everything right and still having a preemie.  I teach human development; I know what you are supposed to do, I did what you are supposed to do.   (No smoking, drinking, take vita mins, get good prenatal care) I still had a full term baby who was lower birthweigth (5lbs 12 oz, down to 5lbs 4oz before leaving hospital) and a preterm baby.  I am one of the types of statistics the March of Dimes funds research for.

All stats are from the MOD website